A Cue from Cupid
by Kym H.R. Kennedy
As Valentine's day approaches it is often that we focus our attention on loving others and getting love from others. How many of us get a little sad if we don't get a card or flowers or a Hershey bar from someone... heck anyone?? Often it really doesn't even matter if we are into another person, we are just hooked on the hype that this is THE day to be recognized as being lovable.
This Valentine's Day, I encourage you to take responsibility for being the loving one. According to A Course in Miracles, it is only what we are not giving in any situation that can be missing from it. So this Valentine's Day, let's give love, unconditional love and acceptance to everyone we meet, know, work and live with.
To me, the ultimate test of our ablity to love is our ability to forgive. It is easy to love those who are giving us gifts and who are taking us out for dinner or cooking our meals. But what about those people who wounded us when we were children? What about those that hurt our feelings, stole from us, rejected us, ignored or lied to us or even worse, when we only wanted to love them? Can we forgive them? Can we love them?
Maybe not so easy, but oh, so important.
The funny thing about our spirits is that it insures that EVERY single time we are hurt or offended by someone, it is because they are unconsciously, energetically, holding up a mirror to show us what we need to heal in ourselves. Yes EVERY time!! Now mind you the mirror is distorted. We don't always see exactly what the connection is. If someone lies to you, you may not lie to others, but do you lie to yourself? If they steal from you maybe you don't steal, but it could be that when you were a child you got caught innocently taking something that you thought was okay to take, but you were so violently punished that you learned to abhor anyone who steals, including that innocent part of you who did it back then.
The situations vary as much as the people do, but I am convinced that in every case, this is the mystical wake up process that we have been provided with to step out of our ego's insidious game of "Blame, Shame & Attack". You don't have to match up the real reason behind the mirror, just know that it is there. Thank that person in your mind for helping you to heal the wounds and traits that you have suppressed and gone blind to.
This Valentine's Day let's wake up, painlessly. Recognize that whether you see it or not those people that you judge, shame and blame are really your little angels trying to wake you up to your healing. By teaching you how to love them, you are learning really how to love yourself, all of yourself. The good, and what "appears" to be not so good!
Let's step up... stand up, for love in a big way this year. Really love someone you didn't think you ever could... forgive someone you didn't ever think you would. Begin to heal those wounds that are keeping you stuck in anger, sadness, depression and guilt. You will be amazed at the energy surge, the joy and freedom you will get in return. And by the way...don't let this only last one day. Make it a habit... it will be one you won't regret having!
With much unconditional love, today and every day
Kym