In loving yourself, you may not be doing yourself a favor if you stay in the situation.  If it is very toxic, then surely you should get out.  Usually though, when you do Radical Forgiveness work you will sufficiently shift your energy to a higher level and the person you are concerned about will either automatically shift to a higher vibration to match yours and your problems will be resolved, or they will have to go away.  If it is the latter they will go away peacefully.  That is because everyone in our lives is a vibrational match for us.  If they weren't, they would be able to be in your space at all.  We are energy beings and as such we always attract people into our lives that match us vibrationally.  This is like how a radio can only play one channel at a time.  So it is with us.  We are either vibrating a degree of love or a degree of fear.  Those are the only two true states of being there are.  Radical Forgiveness tools help to raise your consciousness of love higher and they would have to rise up too to stay in your energy field.

 

Now breaking up is hard to do so we have been told, and many have experienced it just that way.  I offer that if you know you need to separate from a person in your life, be they romantic relationships or family or friends and you feel some guilt about wanting out or somehow feel obligated or just plain sad at the thought of doing so, think on what Buddha said, "Attachment is the #1 cause for human suffering."  Staying attached when you know that you are miserable is not good for you or the other person.  In fact you could very well be blocking tier blessings too by staying. 

 

You surely don't want to stay because you feel that they "need" you.  As long as they are over 18 and you are not their parent or guardian, trust me, they don't "need" you.  If you think that they do, that I am sure is part of the problem!  Adults should not "need" each other.  Adults should complement each other, support each other, entertain each other, love each other, but they should not "need" each other.  All any of us really "need" is a relationship with the Creator, however you define that.

 

If you find yourself staying because you don't want to be alone, then you have another problem.  If alone frightens you, then you must not be loving yourself very much.  When we truly love ourselves, we will always be okay whether we are in the company of others or not.  I loved it when Marianne Williamson said once, "I didn't understand why he didn't want to spend the evening with me, heck I did want to spend the evening with me!!"

 

Finally if you are staying because you are afraid of change in general then I go back to the Buddha's statement about attachment being the #1 cause for human suffering.  Change is inevitable, in fact the only thing in life that we CAN count on is change.  We do ourselves a disservice if we don't accept change as something to be expected.  Now this doesn't mean that you give up on relationships by assuming too soon that it isn't going to last.  No, this just means that fear of change is not a reason to stay in a dysfunctional unhappy, relationship.

 

Relationships are spiritual training grounds.  They are designed by your Higher Self to help you to grow.  When your buttons are pushed, please remember not to go to the mirror (everyone in our lives are our mirrors) to solve the problems.  Go to yourself, process your own energy and your own emotions so that you will begin to vibrate at a higher, more loving level.  Love yourself so you will attract people who will love you.  Know that it is important to forgive whether you stay or not because ultimately forgiveness is for you.